Remembering Your Radiance

6/14/26

What does it mean to remember your radiance?

We all have our own ideas about what that might look like. We often imagine becoming more confident, more successful, more visible, more purposeful, or somehow “better."

But what if it isn't about becoming more of anything?

What if radiance isn't something we acquire, but something that naturally shines when we begin letting go of everything we've mistaken ourselves to be?

It's not about adding more. Not about becoming bigger. Not about being charismatic or more successful. Not about accumulating knowledge or even finding your purpose.

All of those can be meaningful parts of our human journey.

Yet what I've discovered is both simpler and deeper.

It begins by letting go.

Letting go of the relentless thinking mind.The fears and old stories.The expectations.The armor.The weight of trying to be everything for everyone.

I've certainly wrestled with this.

Living in a co-housing community with more than one hundred people has been one of my greatest teachers. There always seems to be someone who needs something. Over the years I've had to learn the difference between genuine service and people-pleasing. It's still a practice. There are times I can wholeheartedly say "yes," and there are times when the kindest response, for everyone involved, is "not this time.”

Life continually offers opportunities to put down what weighs us down:

...the "I shoulds,

..."the "they shoulds,"

..."the stories we've inherited from family, culture, and religion,

and the endless commentary of the mind that so easily convinces us it is telling the truth.

This isn't something we accomplish once and for all.

It's a moment-by-moment practice.

Sometimes letting go is as simple as loosening our grip on

...one thought

...one belief

...one resentment

...one judgment

...one expectation.

Over time, these small moments create more space.

A dear teacher once asked me, "Do you want to trust your mind, or do you want to trust that which moves particles and spins planets?”

That question has stayed with me for years.

I won't pretend it's been easy. I still find myself caught in familiar mental loops. But I've also noticed that as unnecessary thinking begins to soften, something else quietly emerges. There is more space. More ease of being. More joy. Life begins to feel less like something I have to manage and more like something I can participate in.

There is a softening in the body.

A settling of the heart.

A quieting of the mind.

And in that opening, something that has always been present begins to shine through.

To me, this is what remembering our radiance is about.

Not becoming someone new.

Remembering who we have been beneath all the layers.

One of the most beautiful ways I've experienced this unfolding is in the company of others, particularly with women. There is something profoundly healing about being witnessed without needing to perform, fix, or prove anything. When we gather with sincerity and open hearts, we remind one another of what has never been lost.

This fall, I invite you to join me and Dayna Dunbar, M.A. (Spiritual Psychology & Therapeutic Counseling) for six nourishing days of deep rest, nature connection, soulful exploration, and spiritual remembrance.

Together we'll create space to soften, listen deeply, and reconnect with the quiet wisdom that has been within you all along.

Perhaps your radiance doesn't need to be created.

Perhaps it's simply waiting to be uncovered.

If this speaks to your heart, we'd love to welcome you:

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